Having a large family often poses opportunities for people to ask me "how do you do it??" Most the time I just smile and say "day by day". Well this week has been a duzie. I don't know if I'm just getting old or weak or a just plain quitter. I have never loved the last month of school, but it's getting worse every year. I guess it's possible that it could in part be due to the fact that I have more children in school every year. So in this ONE precise situation I truly envy parents of only children.
I came home from a very wonderful and relaxing cruise to day after day filled with "mom I need...". So my very first day back I spent the day trying to unpack and get 4 boys their physicals that they needed by last Saturday to go to Scout Camp. Do you have any idea how much paperwork that is?? Or $$? I also made a Costco trip and a trip to Walmart to pick up all the stuff on the "packing list" we didn't have. I made it home just in time to tuck the rest of the family into bed. If dinner was had, I know not.
Wednesday I did more laundry, had to take Whitley back and forth to work because her car was down and made yet another stop at Walmart to get the cupcakes and ice cream I was supposed to bring to the track banquet that night. Yes, Brooklyn called to let me know about that right as I pulled in the driveway the night before. Bo also called to let me know he had forgotten his lunch. Our friend had also missed the bus so we made an extra trip to the school to get her there. After picking up Katy from school, I decided she and I would have a little girl time and go to lunch. While eating, she mentions something about her graduation that night. I inform her it's tomorrow night. She argues and says her teacher said TONIGHT. I told her her teacher misspoke. It's right here in my phone as Thursday. She continued to tell me I was wrong so I sorted through the "trash" folder in my email to prove to her it was not tonight. Welp, she was right. Right there in the email, tonight. Holy crap. It's also scheduled at the exact same time as the banquet. So we rush home to get in some rest and hopefully a shower. Just as I'm pulling in, Whitley calls and asks me to come and get her. I was just right there 10 min ago!!! So in a selfish rage, I sent Nick to go pick her up. We made it to the graduation, took a few pics and literally grabbed her after walking across the stage and b-lined it to the awards banquet. (where I had dropped my kids off 40 min early because I had no other option). They were just getting started, whew. Thirty minutes later we were eating ice cream and cupcakes, taking more pictures and rushing the kids to mutual. I then made a special trip all alone to meet my dealer, Circle K. I have had more Diet Coke in the last week than ever I can remember. With about 45 minutes to spare before all the kids returned I decided to abandon all hope of being productive at home and crawl into my bed and read. No such luck. Apparently Katy was in the mood to read as well so she hopped in my bed and proceeded to read me two very entertaining Pinkalicious books. Kids come home, chaos for 30 minutes and again the house is quiet.
Stephen and Whitley had gone to the graduation that night and were going to a party after. I woke up about 12:40 to find them still not home. Grr.. Now I'm wide awake and they are not answering. About 1 am they walk in like nothing, say good night and leave me there wishing I was sleeping. Thanks guys.
Thursday was no less exciting. It's supposed to be our movie day, but Nick and I were the only ones home. My house is a wreck!! I have paperwork and laundry stacked up with letters still to write for 5 of my children heading off to camp in a few days. Going to a movie is not the smartest choice at this point, but no one ever said I was smart. Off we went. More Diet Coke and popcorn. Today was Katy's last day but Whitley was on pick up duty since I so smartly went to the movies. She texted me and told me they had come home because Whit didn't feel well. Ok, sweet, no big hurry to go get her. Nick and I had to make a stop at the bank and that's when I got the call from Rhett to please bring him money to buy a yearbook. Oy, so off to the school we go. By now it's 12:30 and Rhett is asking to please come home with us. Since school is such a joke that last week, I agreed as long as he did a chore. Once home, I was heading straight for my bed. Tired. So tired. What do I find, Whitley and Katy sound asleep in MY bed. So my option now is to wake them, or try to squiggle in on Glade's side where the sheets are always untucked and his pillows are smushy. I did my best and as I did, Katy moved over right against me leaving my hanging off the side of the bed. I'm sure this will be an awesome nap.
I did finally get up and get my paperwork done and made a delicious meal of hot dogs and tater tots. Hey, they got fed. Then off we headed to play practice. As we were walking out the door, Glade called to let us know we were irrigating in 5 min. Well, we're leaving and both Stephen and Nick are already at work. Sorry. Lucky for us we have a great irrigation guy who did it for us. While piling in the car we notice 5 chicken loose so we all jump out to round them up. That's when I notice Bo has not fed them or gathered eggs like I had asked him to 43 times. Not a good moment for me. Play practice was crazy, disorganized and I have no idea if anything was actually accomplished. All night Katy was saying that her tummy hurt. On the way home she mentions that she never ate dinner. Apparently she didn't know there were hot dogs and everyone ate her tater tots. Great reason to go through McDonalds drive thru for a cheese burger and 8 cones.
Last day of school!! Still I plow through the demands of the day. Both Bo and Dalin made the talent show, which started at 8:30. That would have been fun except Brooklyn's 8th grade graduation was at 9. So we went and watched the talent show and right after Dalin performed, zoomed over to the high school for Brooklyn. I say we, meaning Me, Whitley, Stephen, Nick, Katy and my Mom. You think I'm going to suffer alone?? After an hour of talks and clapping and pictures, the kids went home and mom and I went back to the grade school for the second round of talent show. They both did great. Dalin asked if he could just go home, so of course I said yes. We took him home, then mom and I went to lunch. Two and a half hours of just Mom time. Much needed respite from my world. I got my nails done, took Nick to work, picked up pizza and went home to start the bribing. My house is in an indescribable state. We haven't touched it in days. DAYS. So I set the pizza boxes on the counter and stated "not one bite will be taken until this house looks like a home again". Amazing how fast things get done with the smell of pepperoni wafting in the air. I might care or have some anxiety about all the things that didn't get done, but there's always next week. And the one after that... it's summer after all. Ü
I was going to make a big post about the last weeks of school and all the riduculous things we are asked to do when everyone has checked out, but then I read this lady's blog and it could be better said. She has nailed my life and my thoughts exactly, totally worth the read.
http://jenhatmaker.com/blog/2013/05/30/worst-end-of-school-year-mom-ever
Friday, May 31, 2013
How DO I do it??
Tuesday, May 28, 2013
Cruise 2013 - At Last!!
Sunday, May 19, 2013
Boldon
Daddy got to baptize and confirm him, while Stephen and Uncle John got to be witnesses. Chelsey and Whitley both gave talks and the rest of the kids sang "Teach Me to Walk in the Light". The primary gave him an awesome towel with his name and date of his baptism embroidered on it. Even his primary teachers were there! We are so lucky to have so much love around us.
The last couple of times we've taken a picture of the family, I've been slightly saddened that it's not a picture of parents and little children surrounding them. These are big kids! It's fun though, I love who they are becoming.
Bo was so stinkin cute. Seriously just grinned the whole time. Even after his confirmation, as he stood up and hugged each of the men, he had tears running down his cheeks, but smiling big at the same time. What a sweet little boy. I couldn't stop hugging him.
After the baptism, we invited everyone back to our house for pizza and ice cream. It was the perfect ending to his experience. (Well, almost... Our puppy Lilly died that afternoon. That's a different post.)
Wednesday, May 15, 2013
Why I haven't blogged
I miss blogging. But sometimes when you sit down to empty your brain, the fingers just don't want to. Or maybe it's the heart. We've had a lot going on here the last month or so that isn't so pleasant. I feel like I try to keep my blog pretty real.. the good, the bad and the ugly. Sometimes though, the ugly is more than I like to share. It's no secret that we have been dealing with a son with drug problems. That's kind of old news. The new news is that its started to affect almost everything we do. Some days you are filled with hope and a brightness of the future, then the very next day you are slammed with the reality that what you thought was real, wasn't. It's been quite the roller coaster. The constant battle has tainted many of our normally fun and exciting activities. So when I want to sit and blog about birthdays and trips and events, it's difficult to paint them as rosy when I know there was so much drama attached. At the same time, I don't feel it's appropriate or pleasant to just lay it all out there either. In the end it's just been easier to not do anything. But life is passing by and I hate that I haven't recorded so many great things. We still battle everyday. Good days, bad days, even strange days. That's reality. What's also reality is that life is great! So with that, I'm going to give my every attempt to get caught up on all that I've missed in the last month. No, I'm not adding any of the drama. Yes, I'm going to paint them as rosy, cuz gosh darn it....they deserve that!
Monday, April 22, 2013
Week in Review
Sunday: Early. We have 8 am church and after the day we had before, it was a little rough getting started. I hadn't located anyone's church clothes and honestly just didn't want to get up. Lucky for me, in my sleepy haze, I mentioned Sunday clothes to Rhett when he got home from the dance and he found them and put them on the ironing board for me. We were there in plenty of time and only had slightly grouchy kids. I was even able to get a nap later that day! We had Sunday dinner and irrigation. The two don't really go together causing all the kids to have to play in the house the whole time. It was loud! But I love my family and it's totally worth it. I have to be honest in saying, I was very ready for my bed by the end of the night!!
It was a funfilled, crazy week, but we made it through and have another one coming up right after this. Someday things will slow down....
Sunday, April 14, 2013
General Conference in Utah
The conductor was very sweet and at one stop let us know that we could probably get off here instead of the other one. After talking to him for a min, we decided it was really 6's so we decided to stay on since "we got no where to be". Not 15 seconds after leaving that stop, the train broke down in the middle of the next intersection. We sat there for quite some time. We decided maybe we could just get out since that was the stop he said we could get off at anyway. But No, he wouldn't let us off since we were in an intersection. Good thing we had no where to be! After finally getting off, we hiked half a mile to our hotel. Finally!! As I checked in with the guy and he tried to offer me a parking pass, I told him we didn't have a car. He asked how we got there and I gave him a brief rundown of our travels. Then he replies "did you know we have a shuttle service from the train station?" No. No I obviously didn't know that! We put our bags in the room and left for our gourmet dinner of McDonald's. The kids were elated.
The next days were awesome! We spent Saturday morning touring around Temple square and seeing everything there was to see. We had a quick lunch of Gyros at the very swanky mall and then went to watch the afternoon session in the old tabernacle. I just loved being there! The spirit on Temple Square was so awesome. The boys had tickets to the Priesthood session so they headed there while us girls went to the mall. By the way, Jake and Jenny Johnson went and so did Brett and Janelle Sherwood. We tried being all girly and shop, but mostly we just dropped. We were so tired. We waited for the boys to come out of priesthood and were just in awe at the number of men in suits that poured out of that building. Truly amazing. We took the boys out for an Italian dinner and then back to the hotel. A lot of walking when your hotel is a mile from where you need to be. Ü
Sunday morning we trekked back to Temple Square for the last two sessions. It was a long walk in my boots! We watched this session from the visitor center theater. It didn't matter where we watched it, it was so awesome to be there. Between sessions, we tried to get a quick lunch but everything is closed there on Sunday! Seriously, the whole mall was closed! So we had an unfortunate incident with Carl's Jr and $13 coke and cookies. About half way back to the temple, Stephen realized he left his brand new binder with all his notes back at Carl's Jr. Sweet Rhett offers to RUN all the way back and get it for him. The reason there was such an urgency is that we actually had tickets to the afternoon session and you have to be in your seats by a certain time or they give them away. It all worked out and Rhett saved the day.
We had originally gotten tickets for the Saturday afternoon session but we gave them to Whitley's friends so they could attend so now we had Sunday afternoon. The only problem was that 3 were on one level and 2 were on another so we didn't get to sit together. Bummer. Stephen and Nick took the upper level and Glade, Rhett and I took the lower ones. Even though we mostly watched it on the big screens, it was so wonderful to be there. I highly recommend it!!
Sunday night, we had caught the little train (which luckily didn't shut down on Sunday) to Lehi where Glade's cousin picked us up and took us back to her home where we stayed for the night. It was really neat to get to know them a little better. We awoke Monday to a cold, rainy day. We had planned on seeing a lot of things in Provo, but it was hard with the weather. We were able to see the temple, BYU, the MTC, the old tabernacle they are turning into a temple and then the Quilted Bear. That's a craft store where I bought some super cute daisy things for my house.
By the end of the day, we had seen most things we wanted and it was time to be getting on the plane. The flight was really rough due to the weather and I hated it, but it was good to back home!
Gerald Lund!! In the same day! He has written all the Church historical fiction books that I have read repeatedly and taught me most of what I know about church history. I can't even tell you how great that was. I'm pretty sure I even shed a few tears telling him how much his work has blessed my life. I'm a goof, I know.
Auditions - The Wiz
Another exhausting, emotional and completely fascinating weekend of auditions. This one was a little different for me as the actual director. I think I may have mentioned this before, but I'm just not sure I have the stomach for this part of it. I have really only experienced the merciful part of this process. That means that my kids (one in particular) were given chances they (he) probably didn't deserve. And it was life changing for him. I want every family to have those experiences. I guess I'm also a sucker for the underdog. I didn't realize that until now. I'm certainly not one to think every kid needs a trophy cuz they showed up. No, you need to earn that. Win something! But in the case of the theater, there are so many talented people. I could kind of describe it in levels. The ones that are just naturally gifted. I have learned that recently, not all things can just be learned. Some things are truly God given gifts. It puts me in awe to hear some of these little ones belt out things that should only come from adults or professionals. Then there are the 2nd stringers. These are the ones I feel the worst for. They are talented kids/people who work hard and want so badly for their chance to shine. Unfortunately there are those gifted ones who are just plain better and usually get the parts. I'm a mother to a bunch of those and I have experienced the tears and sadness that comes from never quite being good enough. Then there are all the average people who love to do it, want to do it, but know there isn't really a "part" for them but are happy just being there. Oh yah, one more group, the ones who think they are gifted and truly believe they will land the starring role but maybe shouldn't be on a stage at all. Those are the real heart breakers.
So now as the one ultimately responsible for casting the show, I get to take responsibility for all the hearts broken and those that are over the moon happy. I haven't learned to shut my heart out of the process, not sure I can ever do that. My tendency is to give those 2nd stringers a chance! They would do great after all. But the right thing is probably to give it to those that are just ultimately better. My head knows that, but my heart hasn't caught up yet. Tomorrow is our callback day where we officially try them in different rolls and make decisions. After that, it gets fun. I'm sure this process gets easier, but for now it's really really hard.


















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